Distance

Many people cannot grasp the concept of a long distance relationship. They feel that if they were to be attached, they would want to be able to see the person in real whenever and wherever they want. To share their life in the presence of each other. It is true that being apart give rise to the possibilities of infidelity but I seriously believe that I don't need to be an ocean apart to fool around. It is not the physical distance that matters, it is emotional distance, the distance between two hearts that matters. If both person love each other and hold their vow sacred, there wouldn't be any issue on infidelity. 

And then there were those who simply prefer a variety in their sex life rather then a dull staple. I wouldn't bet on anyone changing their mindset, sex can be addictive. Love and sex is two separate things for them. One can have sex with anybody but not love anybody. It might be an alien concept to many people who believe in love divine, but, really, how you missed out on all the fun. In the end, it is merely fun for them. Nothing more and nothing less. And this had nothing to do with the distance of the relationship. It is on the person that you are with or the person that you are yourself.

Do you want to find out whether he has fool around? It would be either confrontation or acknowledgement. Would that make your feel better? Maybe in the long run you'll be out of it, but how many of us can really get out once messed up?

物以类聚

"你知道你跟他的分别吗？"
"他是个无耻的溅人，我不是。"
"这个无耻的溅人有男友，你没有。"
"这样的男友我才不要。"
"所以你才一直单身到现在。"
"我才不稀罕。"
"好心，自己知道自己的事。你才要到发疯呢。"
"但我很讨厌这样的人啰，明明有男友了还出来乱搞。那拍拖来干吗？"
"但你身边的朋友好像很多都是这样的。"

什么样的人就会交什么样的朋友。这是很正常的，一点歧视的成份都没有。如果你身边很多朋友都会劈退但你还是会和他们混在一起的话，那些批评的话就变得没有说服力了。如果你不能忍受别人胡搞，你就不会参一班时常搞轰趴的朋友。如果你的道德观念和生活习惯真的跟他们不一样你就会和他们不咬弦。道不同，不相为谋。

很多人说同志的爱情是可悲的。有些人经历过不如意，有些人看尽了不如意。他们没有看见幸福的例子。确实这个圈子有太多的悲剧但也不乏幸福的例子。我身边就有几个成功的例子。几个会很少吗？难道你就非得有一堆成双成对的人在你附近徘徊你才会相信同志的爱情？难道你没有发现到那些你向往的幸福美满都不会是浮在台面的人。问问自己你倾慕的感情生活会是怎样的，再看看你现在的生活。如果你真的和某人在一起了，你还会在你现在的生活里出现吗？

Guide to Lying

To lie is human, not getting caught is divine. You are a liar if you were caught lying, you'll be a saint if you lie without being caught. The perfect boyfriend can be the perfect boyfriend or he could very well be someone who were yet to be caught lying. If you want to lie, make sure you know how to lie properly. The least that you could do is to cover your tracks. Telephone records, sms, browsing history, please learn to clear them. Tools>Option>History>Clear. It's freaking simple.

Don't shit where you eat. If you want to sleep with someone else, don't sleep on the same bed your boyfriend is going to sleep, no matter how impossible it is for him to find out. You never know when the next guy might just decided to cling to you instead, then you'll wish you never brought him home. Life has a way to turn it all against you.

Lying is a spiral of despair. Once you lied, you have to make up more lies to cover it, which is where people found out that you lied. Instead, choose not to tell the whole truth instead. Did you sleep with you him? I wouldn't dream of sleeping with him! See the catch here, you didn't dream to sleep with him as you have already slept with him. Technicality.

Lying is a fine art. It is easy to learn but hard to master.

兼职情人

做兼职情人就只爱在当下，大家清楚地知道对方在当下是属于对方的。因为都知道有一个时间限制，大家会更投入当下的感情，时间到了就各自回到各自的世界。然后又找一天在共度春宵。彼此没有需要对彼此负责或承诺。很透明很轻松。当然这种感情首要条件是双方都清楚游戏规则，不会堕入情网。

这是比一夜情来的有意义比天长地久来的简单。就好像刚刚开始拍拖般甜蜜。但却是永远都待在这个阶段，不多不少。永远都是拍拖的一个对象，而不是活到老的伴侣。享受的是恋爱的过程，不是结果。人永远都是喜新厌旧，得到了的东西是不会怜惜的。得不到才会有火花。得不到才想占有，得到了就会去追求别的东西。

做兼职情人是不用承受相思的煎熬也不用矜持。但是却必须承受这种没有名分，没有固定相见，呼之则来，挥之则去的关系。如果你能的话，你就能很轻松的去享受恋爱的过程和无限的可能。没有人能够得到所有的东西，你能割舍吗？

Living in Oxymoronia

Among the many things that people said about me was that I don't look gay, which at first glance sounds like a good thing, but it's actually not. Being a gay man that looks straight means that most gay men wouldn't have notice you unless you are exceptionally good looking or has a body to die for, which I have neither. With little to no glimpse and glances, that roughly translates to zero encounters. No stalkers, no admirers, no nothing. Whether I want the attention or not is besides the point, the point is that you wouldn't have thought that I am gay if I were to be hanging around you. You see the irony there? There I am but there I am not.

Not that there were no attention, just not the right kind of attention. Succumbing to the natural law that the opposite attracts, a straight gay man tends to attracts the attention of girls. Rejecting a girl without telling her about your own sexuality can be a daunting task. As a matter of fact, telling her about your sexuality might not be the best course of action. Although it was said that girls are more likely to accept gays, it doesn't really cover the guys that they have a crush on. You try to be not that good a person but somehow people still think that you deserve a good girl. There I may not be yet somehow I'm there.