Distance

Many people cannot grasp the concept of a long distance relationship. They feel that if they were to be attached, they would want to be able to see the person in real whenever and wherever they want. To share their life in the presence of each other. It is true that being apart give rise to the possibilities of infidelity but I seriously believe that I don't need to be an ocean apart to fool around. It is not the physical distance that matters, it is emotional distance, the distance between two hearts that matters. If both person love each other and hold their vow sacred, there wouldn't be any issue on infidelity. 

And then there were those who simply prefer a variety in their sex life rather then a dull staple. I wouldn't bet on anyone changing their mindset, sex can be addictive. Love and sex is two separate things for them. One can have sex with anybody but not love anybody. It might be an alien concept to many people who believe in love divine, but, really, how you missed out on all the fun. In the end, it is merely fun for them. Nothing more and nothing less. And this had nothing to do with the distance of the relationship. It is on the person that you are with or the person that you are yourself.

Do you want to find out whether he has fool around? It would be either confrontation or acknowledgement. Would that make your feel better? Maybe in the long run you'll be out of it, but how many of us can really get out once messed up?

物以类聚

"你知道你跟他的分别吗？"
"他是个无耻的溅人，我不是。"
"这个无耻的溅人有男友，你没有。"
"这样的男友我才不要。"
"所以你才一直单身到现在。"
"我才不稀罕。"
"好心，自己知道自己的事。你才要到发疯呢。"
"但我很讨厌这样的人啰，明明有男友了还出来乱搞。那拍拖来干吗？"
"但你身边的朋友好像很多都是这样的。"

什么样的人就会交什么样的朋友。这是很正常的，一点歧视的成份都没有。如果你身边很多朋友都会劈退但你还是会和他们混在一起的话，那些批评的话就变得没有说服力了。如果你不能忍受别人胡搞，你就不会参一班时常搞轰趴的朋友。如果你的道德观念和生活习惯真的跟他们不一样你就会和他们不咬弦。道不同，不相为谋。

很多人说同志的爱情是可悲的。有些人经历过不如意，有些人看尽了不如意。他们没有看见幸福的例子。确实这个圈子有太多的悲剧但也不乏幸福的例子。我身边就有几个成功的例子。几个会很少吗？难道你就非得有一堆成双成对的人在你附近徘徊你才会相信同志的爱情？难道你没有发现到那些你向往的幸福美满都不会是浮在台面的人。问问自己你倾慕的感情生活会是怎样的，再看看你现在的生活。如果你真的和某人在一起了，你还会在你现在的生活里出现吗？