Open Sesame

"Let me get this straight, you and your bf both goes out to have fun?"
"Yup."
"So, it's alright for you to have sex with me?"
"Yup."
"Why not threesome? You, me and your bf?"
"No way."
"Why not?"
"How could I stand to see someone besides me having fun with my bf?"
"But you just said that you and him both goes out to have fun..."
"Yeah, but it's two different thing."
"It is? So, basically what you're telling me is that you share your bf with strangers but not someone that you might know?"
"You can say so."
"Hmm...."

There are a few types of open relationship. One of those are which both go separate way to have fun but never together. This kind of relationship befuddles me. They are protective over their bf yet they allow them to go outside to have fun. Maybe one of them has the habit of outsourcing body parts for sexual intercourse purpose, so the other might have been coax into the act... although it seems highly unlikely. The whole situation just seems like a paradox to me which I can't begin to understand.

If you were to say that both went out for their fun and also came together for group fun, that I can understand. It's actually match made in heaven. It's just like two faithful guy together, two slutty guy together are also consider a great match. At least the matter of infidelity are no longer troubling the relationship. Look at the famous celebrity couple in the circle. Obviously, rumors has it that they often organize group fun together which includes heavy usage of drugs. I don't know them personally, but it all sounds fine to me. As long as they are happy doing what they want to do, there really isn't much we should comment on. Maybe an invitation to one of those party, that would be something. Another thing to add to my profoundly-vain-to-do-list.

Initiative

When walked into a cubicle of a toilet, why do people not close the door? Sometimes it can be awkward when you push open a cubicle door just to find someone in there pissing. There will be a moment of pause where you ponder whether you should close the door or leave it ajar. Whether you should pretend nothing happen or whisper a quick apology instead. Is it because we are just going for a quicky and closing the door seems too much a hassle? Is the 1 second of close-lock that troublesome? The door are meant to be closed,  close it.

When you are on second floor and wanted to go to the third floor, should you take the stair, the escalator or the lift? It's amazing that sometimes people are willing to wait for the lift just to move up one floor when the stair and escalator are within reachable distance in a relatively safe condition. Are we getting lazier as technology pamper us more and more?

When you initiate chat with someone or added them to your msn, and realized that their look are not to your liking, do you quickly ignores them and block them? Feint interest? Or inform them that they are not to your liking and will ignore them henceforth? The first is definately rude but when you're used to it you learn to live with it. I would much prefer to have the third option but rarely get those, I guess we were never that straight  forward, maybe because we were not straight in the first place. Feinting interest, well quite a few people practice so, they usually tone it down level by level until both forgotten each other... But the problem with this option is that people might genuienly thinks that you are interested which then one would have to delicately manuever out of the mess that we get ourselves into, without grudges. But sometimes, poeple can be likened once you get to know them beyond the superficial outlook and that goes for sex too I should add. Some people do well in bed eventhough they don't look beyond par while some really just has a look without essence or skill. Although there are also those people that you get to despise the longer you know them...

Everything is just a matter of initiative. If you chat up with the guy you meet in gym or pub or chatroom, you might find that he is a nice guy, or not. If you go out to buy 1+3D, you might be a hell lot richer tomorrow or RM10 poorer.