Pride & Prejudice

There remains a certain pride among the gay community in saying, "I don't look gay". I am not saying that there is anything wrong in looking gay, but the general association is that gay is sissy, and that itself is not being look upon as a positive trait. It is interesting to note that gay people are often so critical towards effeminacy yet they themselves cry foul when homosexuality is called into question. Human are very selective indeed.

Another general association is that gay people don't like sports or video games. I guess going to gym for weight training is not consider a sport, regardless of how competitive some people are in getting the best physique. Oh, spare me the talk about it making you feel great etc, we all know there are hidden agendas in the form of getting hookups. I also assume that playing dota, halo or cs is bloody enough that only straight man would be interested in them. Furthermore, anything artistic especially in the form of fashion is also associated with gays. It's funny that if you say you like to cook or bake, people would associate it with being gay, but if that is a profession, then it is alright for a man to be involved in the culinary world.

Often people will tell me that others do not suspect them being gay because of their past. Nobody would suspect that they are gay because they have been active in school. Prefects maybe, sports maybe and of course my all time favorite, I have girl friend(s) when I was in school/college/university, they might even screwed a girl or two. 1 for the gay folks, take that straight man!

So why are these people gay now? Most of them resort to the vague explanation of having feeling for a certain man, and of course later involve the fascination with the male genital. So, ends up all the bullshit about them being head boy, football team captain, attached with girls has really nothing to do with deterring them from being gay. So, why do people still take pride in not looking gay because of all these things that has nothing to do with their sexuality in the first place?

Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us. So by not looking gay, I wonder if that is gay pride or merely gay vanity.